Sunday, January 9, 2011

Domestic Violence

I just had the unfortunate experience of overhearing a domestic in the apartment directly across the hall from mine.If it had been just a case of two adults yelling at each other,I would probably not have gotten involved. But upon hearing the voice of a child screaming for someone with a phone,I bolted from my chair.I opened my apartment door to see a little boy about five or six years of age.He was hysterical, crying and asking if I had a phone.A female about 25 was standing with him.I asked what was going on-she replied that her male partner had struck her-and she had struck him back.The male was heading out of the hallway down the stairs at this point.The little boy kept yelling to me that the man was bleeding.I asked the woman if indeed that was the case,she replied yes,he is bleeding from the head.I called the police who thankfully, arrived with-in minutes of my call.
  Everyone concerned was taken in by the officers,and I don't believe the male party was seriously injured.But what a horrible situation for a child to witness.I found myself unduly shaken by this incident.It no doubt triggered some memories of my own dysfunctional childhood.
I share this incident because no where near enough is being done to address domestic violence.
We have in this town a women's shelter-but no avenue of help for the men involved.Locking them up in jail and forcing them to take an anger management course is not the whole answer.This course of action-from my own personal experience in talking to men who have been involved in domestic violence-is rarely effective.
What in my opinion is needed, is a shelter of some kind, where these men, prone to violence,can get professional help.Whether it be court ordered or a voluntary admission.This very dangerous issue of domestic violence must be addressed.Not just at the punitive level-but also at a therapeutic level.These men are acting out this way for a reason.We as a society owe it to our children to delve deeper into this issue.  


  1. it seems like a part of our society now a days.If you're not reading about domestic violence it's on the t.v. or somebody you know is experiencing it. More help for both men and women is needed!!

  2. Hi Joe,, I talked with You just this morning, As i,ve read some of these posts , I have No doubt about your description of Your self, You are a honest and interesting person, which I believe to be a positive trait, and one in which this world needs more of!
    Thank You Joe, as I struggle with my own life, these blogs, seemed to help me this morning,
    As far as the domestic problems in our society, We need to remember that it takes 2 to argue, and in my experience, the fights couples have, are from deep issues going back months if not years, It isnt right for anyone to commit violent actions against men or women, But the cops and courts, only look at the very incident, in stead of the causes leading couples to violence towards each other, I do believe in some cases jail is the only answer, But there is the old saying, ;: the straw that broke the camels back;: and society forgets, or ignores, that Love came before the hate!
    Im really not sure what im trying to really say, As Im really struggling in a love, hate relationship myself! The problem being, it really hurts to let go of LOVE and the pain can turn the most passive person into some (they) dont know,
    I guess in the end,,, Its Life !!!!

  3. There are many reasons why women may not leave. She may not have enough financial resources to live away from her spouse. She may not have a place to live